Rethinking Everything: Personal Growth through Transactional Analysis
Neil Bright
Language: English
Pages: 233
ISBN: 1475808798
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
If fewer things in life are more common than talented people who are unsuccessful, it is equally true that fewer things in life are more common than otherwise healthy people making themselves miserable.
Combining widely-accepted concepts of human behavior with elements from Rational Emotive Therapy, Positive Psychology, Emotional Intelligence, and most prominently Transactional Analysis, Rethinking Everything explores in immediately understandable terms why we act as we do, how we frequently undermine our relationships, why we often cripple our potential, and how we can take greater control of our lives.
By providing the language, real-life examples, and behavioral explanations to label, recognize, and examine dysfunctional conduct, Rethinking Everything empowers an awareness-inspired journey towards self-improvement. To that end, the expectation is not for readers of this book to save the world, but rather for those internalizing its insights to rethink everything in saving their own more personal universe.
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advertising claims, and cons in everyday life is referred to as the third-person effect (McRaney 2011). Another form of “self-enhancement bias,” this Child contamination of the Adult delusion is founded upon the erroneous assumption that while “everyone else,” the aforementioned third person, is susceptible to hoaxes, propaganda, complete lies, and half-truths, one’s intelligence and sophistication is an impenetrable shield for such deceptions. Yet for the most part, this supposition is hubris
patterns of social maneuvers with underlying messages inexorably leading to unhappy outcomes. And since their repetitive pattern is a signature component of all games, favored ones are passed down and habitually played within families from generation to generation as “comfortably uncomfortable” and, ultimately, toxic ways of relating to others. Wherever children receive formal instruction in reading, writing, and arithmetic, they are “home-schooled” in the art and practice of psychological
results can be devastating. 5 6 Chapter 2 That this is so should not be surprising. For if one is destined to be “always helpless” with a “Nothing I do matters” attitude, apathy will replace effort and gloom-and-doom passivity will replace a “can do” willingness to strive for betterment. Thus without attending to what needs improving, placing hope that tomorrow will be better on “uncontrollable whims of fate” will likely lead to an endless cycle of failure, pessimism, depression, and further
happenstance, they are in varying degrees potentially both. And since of those three factors the most controllable is upbringing, it is essential for parents to provide consistently positive strokes whenever or however children assume the I’m OK, You’re OK worldview. For if the mindset that we are all unique, valuable, and worthy of respect exists at birth, then high-quality nurturance will only reinforce that. And if an ultrapositive core perception of oneself and others partially or even
decide. As ever-present elevator muzak, the I’m Not OK, You’re OK melody plays in the background of one’s unconscious until notice is taken of its existence. And that existence is exemplified by feelings of never being attractive enough, smart enough, athletic enough, and good enough. Yet however “enough” is defined, it is always beyond reach in a victim’s existence where Wooden Leg, Kick Me, and Schlemiel are among the only games in town. If someone tells such obsessively insecure people that
