The Zimzum of Love: A New Way of Understanding Marriage
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As he revolutionized traditional teaching on hell in the phenomenal New York Times bestseller Love Wins, Rob Bell now transforms how we understand and practice marriage in The Zimzum of Love, co-written with his wife, Kristen.
Despite the divorce statistics, people are still committing to each other, instinctively believing and hoping that theirs is a sacred union that will last forever. Yet when these couples encounter problems, they often lack the resources that keep them connected to this greater mystery surrounding marriage.
Rob and Kristen Bell introduce a startling new way of looking at marriage, The Zimzum of Love. Zimzum is a Hebrew term where God, in order to have a relationship with the world, contracts, creating space for the creation to exist. In marriage, zimzum is the dynamic energy field between two partners, in which each person contracts to allow the other to flourish. Mastering this field, this give and take of energy, is the secret to what makes marriage flourish.
Rob and Kristen Bell are brutally honest about their own struggles, their ups and downs, as together they pass along what matters most for couples. In this wise book, they explore the secret of what makes a happy union—probing the mystery at the heart of the extraordinary emotional connection that binds two people. With his down-to-earth charm, a dose of whimsy, and memorable stories, Rob, writing with his wife Kristen, changes how we consider marriage, providing insight that can help all of us create satisfying and sacred unions of our own.
wife. It was beautiful to watch. People standing between them actually backed up a bit to give them more space to see each other, many of them watching as riveted as we were. K: In the midst of that cramped, loud food court full of people trying to get home, it was like everything slowed down and it was just the two of them as if they were the only two people in the airport. You could almost see the exclusive circle around them. In quantum physics, when two subatomic particles have been
your extended family members or your neighbors is toxic. It brings people in where they don’t belong. Picture a couple at a dinner party and the wife is telling a story and the husband makes eye contact with you and rolls his eyes because he thinks she’s taking too long to make her point. This may seem harmless and all in good fun, but in that moment he’s doing something destructive. He has an issue with her talking too much, and instead of keeping it between them, he’s bringing you in. And in
muscle that gets stronger the more you use it. There is something divine at work in those moments when you forgive, as it’s written in the scriptures, God is love and love covers over a multitude of sins. When you forgive, you’re showing each other what God is like. This person you are married to is extraordinary. They’re a human being—a finite, flawed, fragile, featherless biped, made of dust and bone and blood and water. They sometimes do things that get on your nerves; they have odd quirks
wanted to know whether this was something more than a friendship. R: So as I pulled up to “Arrivals” at the airport, I had the strong sense that there was something else going on here. I thought it was better just to get it out in the open, and so when she got in the truck I asked her, “What percentage of your visit is actually to look for a place to live?” She smiled and said, “Well, it makes a great excuse.” I will never forget the BOOM!!! that went off in my heart when she said that.
of you has to move toward the other in love. Not with accusations, and not in fear, and not with a summary of who has what points. One of you has to break the cycle. One of you has to tear up your scorecard first. Sometimes this is as straightforward as sitting down and looking the other person in the eyes and saying I am for you. I’ve got your back. I am committed to your best. Help me understand things from your perspective. What can we do together to change things? When one person moves