Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman: What Men Know About Success that Women Need to Learn
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An honest and practical handbook that reveals important insights into relationships between men and women and work, Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman, is a must-read for every woman who wants to leverage her power in the workplace.
Women make up almost half of today's labor force, but in corporate America they don't share half of the power. Only four of the Fortune 500 company CEOs are women, and it's only been in the last few years that even half of the Fortune 500 companies have more than one female officer.
A major reason for this? Most women were never taught how to play the game of business.
Throughout her career in the super-competitive, male-dominated media industry, Gail Evans, one of the country's most powerful executives, has met innumerable women who tell her that they feel lost in the workplace, almost as if they were playing a game without knowing the directions. In this book, she reveals the secrets to the playbook of success and teaches women at all levels of the organization--from assistant to vice president--how to play the game of business to their advantage.
Men know the rules because they wrote them, but women often feel shut out of the process because they don't know when to speak up, when to ask for responsibility, what to say at an interview, and a lot of other key moves that can make or break a career. Sharing with humor and candor her years of lessons from corporate life, Gail Evans gives readers practical tools for making the right decisions at work. Among the rules you will learn are:
• How to Keep Score at Work
• When to Take a Risk
• How to Deal with the Imposter Syndrome
• Ten Vocabulary Words That Mean Different Things to Men and Women
• Why Men Can be Ugly, and You Can't
• When to Quit Your Job
From the Hardcover edition.
other.” Things are changing—very slowly. While at some colleges, in some athletic programs, some women are learning to play to win, that is not the prevailing attitude. The emphasis on victory is still a male concept. Playing to make friends is not. When was the last time you heard a bunch of guys, back from a serious football game, whooping it up and saying, “What a wonderful weekend, we met some really nice guys on the other team. Too bad we lost”? Work is no more about friendship than a
she reads, in the way she talks with her friends, she imagines being done to, rather than doing; she’s passive rather than active. I see this pattern day after day in the office and on the road. Recently I was in St. Louis talking to a large gathering of young journalists. Afterwards, 20 aspiring women approached me and handed me their cards, all saying that they dreamed about having a job like mine. Was there any possibility …? I showed interest in these women’s ambitions. I encouraged them to
that the coffee wagon is late, that he can’t find his cell phone, that his son’s softball team lost a big game, that the company is revising its profit forecasts downward, that he has to fire his assistant, that his boss is angry at him, that the world is coming to an end. Her response to everything: I’m sorry. The word sorry is a female addiction. We use it so often, to express so much, and in so many contexts, it has virtually no meaning. It’s just something we say, the iceberg lettuce of
categories of women as “social” and “cooperative,” men as “aggressive” and “tough” hold true in this book. Whereas not all men learned to play football or chess or poker, and not all women played with dolls or ignored competitive games, the majority of men and women were socially acculturated according to their sex. Now, I know many men never played competitive sports or games while they were young. Certainly some women are stronger and more competitive than any number of men. And I’m not
restructuring your department. Suddenly he excuses himself. You suspect he’s changed his mind and doesn’t like your ideas after all. Actually, he had to go to the bathroom. I’ve watched women personalize the office to the point where they won’t hire people they don’t like—even if they are exactly right for the job. I’ve also seen women inflict a mortal wound on their own careers by refusing to cooperate with someone they have an aversion to. Your co-workers are not your friends or your family.