I Only Want to Get Married Once: The 10 Essential Questions for Getting It Right the First Time
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There is no rule that says heartbreak must be a prerequisite for good judgment. If you don't want to be a divorce statistic and are ready for a long-lasting relationship, this audiobook's for you.
In today's divorce culture, too many people have stopped trusting their ability to build a loving and lasting marriage. Now renowned relationship coach and counselor Chana Levitan reveals the 10 essential questions everyone should ask before saying "I do."
Listeners will learn how to: spot long-term potential; know the difference between infatuation and love - how they work against each other and yet how they can work together; reevaluate their approach to love and what they really need to succeed in building a loving marriage; gain the confidence to steer through the decision making process of dating; and more.
Filled with real-life anecdotes and insightful advice, I Only Want to Get Married Once helps listeners get it right the first time.
She felt paralyzed by her mixed feelings. Denise’s confusion pushed her to investigate her intense need for love and approval. Her need for these things was blocking her real dream of building a life with a man who wanted similar things. She started to understand that her feelings for Rob weren’t based on real love after all, just a neediness and comfortable security. She realized that what she longed for was real love, which would be freeing, nurturing, and growth oriented. Yet even with this
direction. And because he never worked on his character, he had the emotional maturity of a much younger man. Pamela was the opposite: she had finished college and had taken time to work on herself. Even though she said she loved him, she was sick of nagging and mothering him. I supported her in moving forward. A few days later, I saw Pamela and asked her what had happened with Dave. She said, “I broke it off, but then we got back together. He just can’t survive without me! I can’t do this to
as I try, I just can’t open up to Joe.” As we spoke, Nina eventually admitted: “You know what? I just don’t trust him! But we have such great chemistry. How is it possible to have such great chemistry with someone, yet not trust him?” It’s a good question. Having chemistry with someone doesn’t mean that you can be emotionally intimate. In other words, physical chemistry and emotional intimacy are not the same thing. What is intimacy? It is commonly said that the word itself spells out its true
healthy relationship. Self-disclosure shouldn’t be one-sided. Real emotional intimacy only develops if it’s mutual, with each party putting out a card or two at a time. If one person is doing all of the opening up, it could lead to an illusion of a close relationship. Although one person usually begins and takes the lead, ultimately, self-disclosure is safe only if it’s reciprocated. The Vulnerability Factor Once we understand that emotional intimacy is based on trust, we can begin to understand
worst in you. The problem is that it’s possible to get so caught up in the feelings of infatuation that you don’t realize that the person you’re dating is bringing out your unhealthy side. Take, for example, Vanessa, a woman in her late twenties who grappled with various addictive tendencies. After she decided to pull her life together, she spent a good two years working on herself in therapy and at support groups. She was doing unbelievably well, had built up a tremendous amount of