10 Days to a Less Defiant Child: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child's Difficult Behavior

10 Days to a Less Defiant Child: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child's Difficult Behavior

Language: English

Pages: 304

ISBN: 1569243018

Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub

Occasional clashes between parents and children are not uncommon, but when defiant behavior — such as tantrums, resistance to chores, and negativity — becomes chronic, it can cause big problems within the family. In 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, child and family psychologist Dr. Jeff Bernstein has developed a ground-breaking 10-day program to help parents gain back control over their defiant child or teen. This powerful and exceptionally reader-friendly guide explains what causes defiance in kids, why it's so destructive to the family, and shows parents step-by-step how they can end the behavior. Simple-to-follow and extremely effective, 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child will bring much-needed relief to the millions of frustrated parents out there living with defiant children.

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behaviors. The information on ADHD and other disorders is particularly valuable. The sooner you get started with Dr. Bernstein’s plan, the sooner you will have a more peaceful home.” —MARIE PAXSON, coordinator of a support group for parents of children and teens with ADHD “Parents need to go no further; this book is THE resource book for parents of defiant and challenging children. 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child empathizes and actively supports parents like myself—who have looked fruitlessly

with your defiant child guarantees that you will lose. By learning to be calm and firm and using the additional strategies I provide later in this chapter, you will have all the tools you’ll need to avoid power struggles with your child. Calm and Firm Will Not Feel Natural As I’ve said in previous chapters, embracing the skills that I am giving you may initially feel unnatural and awkward. The same applies to my calm-and-firm approach. Al certainly felt awkward giving up his tough, old-school

school. Ben had been showing the knife to friends on the playground at recess when a teacher took notice and confiscated it. As a result of this, Ben was suspended for three days and allowed back on the condition that I write a note. Ben also had his fair share of conflicts on the bus and with peers at school. I worked with Ben and he made some strong progress in controlling himself. What helped immensely was Ben’s understanding and supportive teacher. In the beginning of the school year, Ben

brought to see me because he took a key and scraped it against his father’s car. Corey’s father had threatened that he would have to sleep with his light off—something Corey was very afraid of. Corey dealt with his fear by becoming more defiant. I helped Corey’s dad learn that Corey’s way of coping with his fear was to become defiant. In counseling with me, Corey learned to verbalize and work through his night fears instead of suppressing them and acting out angrily with poor behavior choices.

parents. Like many children with sniffling and eye movement tics, Julian had been relentlessly teased by classmates. He had poor self-esteem and had convinced himself that he was “freaky,” “stupid,” and “was going to have a horrible life.” Julian had begun dealing with these negative feelings by physically lashing out at his peers. I saw Julian for individual counseling to address his self-esteem issues. I also worked closely with his school. Julian’s teacher agreed to speak to his classmates

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