You're Lying!: Secrets From an Expert Military Interrogator to Spot the Lies and Get to the Truth
Lena Sisco
Language: English
Pages: 156
ISBN: 1601633629
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
Lena wrote You're Lying! because no matter what your profession or life circumstances, you need the skills to take control of a situation, detect deception, and reveal the truth. While you probably won't ever have to interrogate a detainee who doesn't want to tell you about an upcoming terrorist attack—as Lena has—You're Lying! will help you deal with that salesperson trying to rip you off, the kid bullying your child who claims innocence, a cheating spouse, or dissembling boss. As the adage says, knowledge is power.
Lena interrogated numerous members of Al Qaeda and the Taliban while stationed at Guantanamo Bay, Cuba, then taught those skills to Defense Department personnel for years afterward. Her ability to build rapport, accurately read body language, and employ effective questioning techniques led to numerous successes that saved American lives.
You will also learn her easy-to-follow five-step program on how to accurately detect verbal (both spoken and written) and non-verbal deceptive tells, how to conduct an effective line of questioning, and what to do after you identify the lies we all face every day.
Take the knowledge in You're Lying! and empower yourself.
Don't get fooled again.
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them to warm up to you to stay engaged in the conversation. You do that by asking open-ended questions that require a narrative response, versus yes-or-no questions. Another good way to do this is to ask for help. For example, say you are on a plane and you ask a stranger to help you open the overhead compartment to put your bag in; or you are in a crowded bar, and instead of squeezing between patrons to order a drink, you ask a person sitting at the bar to order one for you. When you ask people
the meaning of the name and why we choose it, I felt myself slipping back to my typical way of conversing with my dad: on the defensive! I am just like him (stubborn). When we get something in our heads, it is going to take moving the moon to convince us otherwise. As the conversation went on I realized I was arguing with him. I thought, What do I do for a living? I teach people how to diffuse arguments! Why can’t I do this with my dad? So I flipped on the switch and started using my techniques,
that you weren’t listening to what the other person just said; you were thinking about what you were going to say. Even if you heard that person, it sends the signal you didn’t listen. It also gives the impression to others that what you have to share has more importance. Engaging is always a two-way street. 5. Don’t be afraid to let them teach you. This last tip requires ego suspension and works great on people with big egos. There are two elicitation techniques that you can use to get people
present the information in a different way, my Sensors understood my assignment and felt comfortable with how I presented it. Here is an example. I would give a homework assignment at the end of a long day when students were packing up ready to leave, that consisted of writing a 500-word, handwritten, double-spaced biography on themselves written in the third person. My INtuitive students would hear “write an essay about yourself” and then start to consider what they wanted to divulge: the most
situation, how to make a killer first impression, how to feel and look more confident, how to get people to want to listen to what you have to say, and how to get people to look at you as a leader and respect you? Wouldn’t you want to know if your new employee was stealing money from your business? Whether your daughter was being bullied? Whether your son was using drugs? Whether your coworker lied to your boss to get the promotion you were both up for? Whether your witness was purposefully
