Trust Me, Mom: A Less Stressful Approach to Parenting Teenage Daughters
Roni Cohen-Sandler
Language: English
Pages: 279
ISBN: 2:00203425
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
It's hard to imagine a mother who isn't concerned about something connected to the social behavior of her teenage daughter—whether it's friends, romance, heartbreak, secrecy, attitudes, temptations, stress management , or the fallout from painful (and occasionally irrevocable) mistakes. The list of potential worries connected to adolescent development is endless. While some girls are isolated and lonely, others become so preoccupied with texting, chatting, and making plans their grades and extracurricular activities suffer. While some teens long to date, others form unhealthy, if not abusive, attachments. Mothers are troubled when daughters are bossy, disloyal, victimized, shy, controlling, unassertive, or mean. And when teens begin to guard their privacy with a vengeance, mothers must deal with issues of trust, lying, trouble, and discipline. If all this isn't enough, there are also the notorious risks of sex, adolescent substance abuse, and violence.
Trust Me, Mom: A Less Stressful Approach to Mothering Teenage Daughters is the bible every mother needs! Drawing from more than 30 years of experience, Dr. Roni Cohen-Sandler provides a clear-cut, practical plan for parenting teens in the 21st-century that reduces stress while strengthening the bond between mothers and daughters. Trust Me, Mom covers:
How to discuss important topics, raise concerns and impart values.
How to teach daughters the social-emotional and problem-solving skills they need to thrive in the world.
How to deal with the challenges and frustrations mothers face, including their worries, anger, shock, shame, and even disgust at their daughters' poor decisions and risky behaviors.
How to appreciate that girls' impulsive mistakes arise from immature teen brains trying to manage compelling, developmental desires for inclusion, acceptance, and autonomy.
How to differentiate between expected teen behavior and red flags for more serious trouble.
How to foster Self-esteem for teen girls and the strong sense of self and authentic inner voice that will guide them when mothers are not around.
How to get information about what girls are really thinking and doing.
How to know when girls are ready for more freedom.
How to know when they should start dating.
How to handle curfews, consequences, and downward spirals of punishment.
How to define the limits of privacy—and is it ever okay for mothers to snoop?
How to understand the way technology (e.g. cell phones, texting and social media) is shaping today's teens' communications and interactions.
How to inoculate girls against peer pressure, substances, and inappropriate sexual activity.
How to cope with those topics that keep mothers awake at night: unsupervised parties, bullying, oral sex, coed sleepovers, underage drinking, and sex and violence in the media.
And what about LGBT teens? This totally revised, updated and expanded eBook edition of Trust Me, Mom goes so far beyond other teen help books! Armed with a sensible plan and an extensive repertoire of effective strategies, mothers will be more confident of raising strong, socially skilled young women who can enjoy healthy, satisfying relationships.
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this way. Since your daughter was a young girl, you have probably invested considerable thought and effort in teaching her to follow her heart while learning to get along with others. Still, despite your mindfulness, probably neither your daughter nor her life has been perfect. Perhaps her chattiness, possessiveness, or flair for melodrama has occasionally alienated others. Teased or disappointed by a close friend, she may have become furious, inconsolable, or vengeful. If your daughter acted
GLBT Teenagers Modern Dating: Revised The Healthy Relationship Teenage Sexual Behavior Potential Pitfalls of Romance Chapter 10 Parties and Partying - SOCIALIZING Teenage Hangouts: Anywhere That’s Private Parties and Get-togethers Drinking Drugs Trouble with Substances Tobacco Chapter 11 Making Her Way - LETTING GO Copyright Notices Roni Cohen-Sandler, Ph.D. “TRUST ME, MOM” A Less Stressful Approach to Mothering Teenage Daughters Copyright © 2002, 2013 by Dr. Roni Cohen-Sandler, Ph.D Int’l
way. If you lied to your mother and snuck around behind her back, ask yourself why you did so. Were you afraid of her disapproval or punishment? Were you ashamed to tell her the truth? Did keeping part of your life to yourself make you feel more grownup—or guilty? These insights may help you to be more attuned to your daughter’s feelings about privacy. Keep in mind, however, that your daughter might not feel the same way you did about these issues. She may not be inclined to share every last
next room with this guy she likes, while me and this other girl sat and watched TV with his two friends. When they all left, we went back upstairs to go to sleep.” You would be amazed how often I hear of girls who routinely sneak out of their homes while their parents are sleeping. In the suburban area in which I practice, those who are too young to drive call older friends or taxis to take them to surrounding towns, where they go to parties, meet boys, and sometimes drink or take drugs— scenes
feelings listed below, and perhaps not precisely as described, it might help you to know that these are all common reactions of mothers whose teenage daughters are caught making mistakes: • Disbelief. Most mothers are not neglectful or uncaring, yet what mother would want to believe her daughter could behave meanly, blatantly disregard rules, or carelessly neglect her safety? This could well be why teenagers in therapy routinely describe outrageous and rather obvious exploits that somehow their
