The Gift of Anger: Seven Steps to Uncover the Meaning of Anger and Gain Awareness, True Strength, and Peace
Language: English
Pages: 172
ISBN: 1572249668
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
Anger is a natural response to feelings of hurt, betrayal, and embarrassment, and a reliable outlet when we feel just plain stressed out. Yet many of us see anger as a negative, potentially dangerous emotion that should be suppressed.
But the truth is, anger is a gift—a natural, internal signal that unfailingly identifies an opportunity for healing and growth. The Gift of Anger shows you how to recognize this signal, discover the deeper meaning behind your anger, and change the relationships and situations in your life that frustrate you. In seven simple and effective steps, this book guides you past any level of anger, from mild irritation to rage, and toward a balanced approach to using anger for greater understanding and well-being.
By learning to see anger as a gift, you'll be able to:
- Regain emotional balance after becoming angry
- Identify and name the unmet needs at the root of your anger
- Create an action plan for ensuring your needs are met
- Understand and forgive others and have compassion for yourself
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work with, complete the following: With the experience and the anger it evoked firmly in mind, notice the presence of your personal anger cue. If the memory of your experience is still upsetting enough, pick one of your rebalancing techniques and use it with this experience. Write the results in your journal. * * * Now that you have a record of your completion of step one, it’s almost time to discuss the second step. First, though, let’s do a brief review. The Gift-of-Anger
this letter is to write out your thoughts and feelings fully and honestly. That means letting your exploration take you where it will and writing it all out. When you do, and when you continue following the rest of the process, your feelings will most likely change by themselves. What you are doing now is simply one step in a seven-step process, so trust yourself. Don’t stop until you’re sure you’re finished. Write until you feel finished, and then ask yourself if there’s more. You might check
his fault would accomplish that goal. It certainly did. Repeatedly seeing the messages all over his apartment helped strengthen his determination to use this experience as motivation to find a better job. As he took the remaining steps, he began thinking about what it was he really wanted to do and who, among the people he knew, might be helpful. Jeff Jeff was angry at his wife, Lila, because she had gotten so unfairly mad at him for picking her up late from work. While it was true that he
small, manageable actions, “I’ll focus on us both.” Linda We met Linda in chapter 7 and learned that she was angry with her mom for always focusing on her sister and angry with her sister for always being weak and needy. Linda said that she didn’t want to involve either her mother or her sister in working through her anger. She didn’t believe they would listen, and she wanted to avoid another family argument. She just wanted to do what she could to meet her unmet need on her own. Linda
that he no longer felt like a victim. Taking the steps in the process and completing them by writing his forgiveness letter resulted in his seeing himself as someone who was growing in awareness and in the capacity to handle problems and live more peacefully and joyfully. Talking about it later, Eric said that the positive feelings he got from writing his letter stayed with him. He found himself appreciating other people more and acting with more awareness and kindness to those around him, as
