Shock Waves: A Practical Guide to Living with a Loved One's PTSD
Cynthia Orange
Language: English
Pages: 204
ISBN: 1592858562
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
Shock Waves is a practical, user-friendly guide for those who love someone suffering from this often debilitating anxiety disorder, whether that person is a survivor of war or of another harrowing situation or event. Through her own experience, extensive research, advice from mental health professionals, and interviews with those working through PTSD and their families, Cynthia Orange shows readers how to identify what PTSD symptoms look like in real life, respond to substance abuse and other co-occurring disorders, manage their reactions to a loved one's violence and rage, find effective professional help, and prevent their children from experiencing secondary trauma.
Each section of Shock Waves includes questions and exercises to help readers incorporate the book's lessons into their daily lives and interactions with their traumatized loved ones
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in asking for help. The first step is to identify your problem or need or fear. Often just naming a pain or difficulty is a release because by doing so, you give yourself permission to be vulnerable, to be less than perfect. When we expect perfection, we operate in a world of illusion. We judge ourselves by impossible standards and berate ourselves when we fail to meet our unreachable goals. After you have a pretty good idea of why you need help, the second step is to figure out who can most
never return to again. Finally, remember to schedule—not wish or try or hope, but actually set aside—time for just yourself. If you have kids and your loved one is unable or unwilling to babysit, barter child care with a friend and give yourself a night off. You might want to use Julia Cameron’s idea of making an “artist’s date” with yourself. In her book The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity, Cameron instructs us to set aside a block of time every week reserved only for
to schedule appointments and errands back-to-back so you can consolidate trips. Put a family engagement calendar on the wall or refrigerator to record each member’s activities and appointments. Plan ahead. Try to set aside one day a week for shopping and other errands and chart your course ahead of time for maximum efficiency. Use the Internet to find a store that has a particular item in stock, rather than traveling all over town to locate it. If you’re in charge of finances, try to pay your
blackouts; forgetting what was purchased) Low self-esteem My husband had classic trauma symptoms. He was depressed and distant or he’d blow up over the littlest thing. It got to be this emotional roller coaster, and I’d get so sad and lonely. Although I have trouble spending money on myself, I discovered I felt great when I’d buy something special for friends or my grandkids. I loved their excitement and gratitude. It made me feel loved and special. But my spending got out of control and I’d
survivors, and rescue workers gathered for a memorial ceremony under the tree, they noticed the old elm was beginning to bloom again. Thanks to the tender care and attention it has received, the Survivor Tree now thrives, and each year hundreds of seeds are planted and nurtured into saplings that are now growing all over the United States. Saplings were sent to—among other places—Columbine High School after the shooting there, New York City after 9/11, and Virginia Tech after the campus
