Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame
Beverly Engel
Language: English
Pages: 196
ISBN: 2:00109953
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
1st Edition
Healing Your Emotional Self
"Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-esteem, self-image, and body image. In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more posititve self-image. I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child."
--Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents
"In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engle's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives."
--Joyce Catlett, M.A., coauthor of Fear of Intimacy
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship
"Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse . . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse."
--Marti Tamm Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse
Loving Him without Losing You
"A powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read."
--Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Are You the One for Me?
Flirting with Disaster: Why Accidents Are Rarely Accidental
The Art of Deception: Controlling the Human Element of Security
Forgotten Ideas, Neglected Pioneers: Richard Semon and the Story of Memory
Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage
Parents - PARENTAL MIRROR: “YOU ARE BAD” OR “YOU ARE UNACCEPTABLE” The Self-Absorbed or Narcissistic Parent - PARENTAL MIRROR: “YOU DON’T MATTER” ... Chapter 3 - Your Body as a Mirror Obsessors and Avoiders How Is Our Body Image Created? Do You Judge Yourself Accurately? Peer Acceptance and Rejection The Effects of Emotional Abuse, Neglect, and Smothering on Our Body Image Chapter 4 - How Mirror Therapy Works The Basic Premises of Mirror Therapy Mirroring and Projection
before I am actually ready? 5. Is this person ready to reconcile with me? Is she still angry with me for being angry with her, for not having seen her for a while, or for bringing the abuse out in the open? (If so, she may need more time to heal and forgive, no matter how forgiving you might feel.) If you can’t answer yes to questions 1, 2, 3, and 5 and no to question 4, you may need to wait a while before attempting a reconciliation. Facing the Pain and Confusion of Emotional Separation
abuse or neglect you experienced. My client Connie describes herself this way: “I’m an educated woman but I feel so incompetent and stupid most of the time. I constantly compare myself with other people and always end up feeling inferior in some way. I’m constantly amazed how other people seem to be able to speak up and not worry about whether what they say is going to be negatively judged by others, because I’m always afraid I’ll say something that will let other people know just how
either to get angry at yourself and chastise yourself severely or to become numb. You may live in constant fear that others will discover how worthless you really are. When someone criticizes or rejects you, it may feel as if they have seen the real you. No matter how small the current difficulty, it is a painful reminder of the times when you were rejected or abandoned as a child and came to believe that you were to blame for it. Even though you may try to tell yourself that it is just a small
monster or the icon you had perceived your parent to be. How to Take Back Your Power The best way to take back your power is to confront your parents about their abusive behavior. Although you still may be afraid to do this directly, you can do so by imagining that you are confronting your parents and telling them how you really feel. Lorraine is the woman from chapter 4 who was humiliated for not getting the scuffs off the floor. Although she was still afraid of her mother, it helped
