Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships
Ashley Stanford
Language: English
Pages: 288
ISBN: 1843107341
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
First published in 2002. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.
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except with strong emotions such as anger or misery” (Wing 1981). An aspie’s facial expressions are often described as “wooden” or, a more general descriptor, “inappropriate.” A few examples: We were at our child’s school, watching our child receive an award, but my husband [AS] just clapped. No ear-to-ear smile like other parents showing pride in his child. Or: I can never tell when he’s angry or happy. He looks so blank. Or: I fell down the stairs and broke my ankle. I looked up to see that my
example, I’ll say, “Honey, you really need to put down that spoon and move on to the next thing you want to do tonight.” She gets stuck in ruts and needs help going from one thing to the next. She appreciates my help and doesn’t function effectively without it, but she resents the way I give it. One day she said, “Why don’t you treat me like you do all your friends from work?” It occurred to me that I didn’t treat her like an adult and maybe I should give it a try. For several days I tried to
the Aspie? The Aspie may become distrusting of other people. Without the ability to escape the bullying, the Aspie learns that others act irrationally, cruelly, and without respect. The Aspie either lashes out or retreats. This behavior may become so frequent and the distrust so widespread that the Aspie becomes suspicious and fearful of people in general (Aston 2001, p.41). Bullies can smell fear. They are drawn to victims who are alone, on the social periphery – Aspies. The adult Aspie may find
idea that frivolous chitchat can be fun. He’ll say, “Guess what?” or “Wanna hear something?” He is spontaneously sharing, unprompted and unrehearsed. I knew that my better half had finally tasted the joys of experience sharing when he started making comments such as “I miss talking with you” and “Let’s spend some time together.” He had come to feel the sweet pleasures of interacting with someone. He didn’t have a specific goal in mind and he wanted to speak with me, not just anyone. This
job is going to be very difficult. One night, we role-played what he would say in an interview. I said, “Do you know many computer languages?” He said, “Yes.” I prompted him that he should then list which ones he knows, selling THIRD DIAGNOSTIC CRITERIA 173 himself to the employer. He couldn’t spontaneously offer information so I asked him, “Do you know C++?” He said, “A little.” I couldn’t stifle the “What?” He’s one of the best and most efficient C++ programmers in the field and he says “a
